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River Jackson-Paton, Ph.D.

9441 Folkstone Road
Dallas, TX 75220

[email protected]

~~~~~ working together from whatever starting point makes the most sense~~~~~

~~~~~ these are some questions that i’ve considered in this work ~~~~~

~~~~~ visit online practices for various donation-based activities ~~~~~

 ~~~~~ sliding scale from $35 to $75 per hour  ~~~~~

~~~~~ free 20-minute consultation ~~~~~


masculinity. emotions. identity. family.

How does a man meet today’s expectations of masculinity?

How might men express our emotions?

What does male gender identity look like for each of us?

How are men in relationship with our families?


intimacy. empowerment. sensuality. family.

How can women find intimacy in relationships?

What practices foster a woman’s feeling of empowerment?

How do women find and create their own personal sense of sensuality?

In what ways do family relationships affect how women feel about themselves?



transitions. endings. beginnings. openings.

How might we find ways to work through various relationship transitions?

What are some practices that will help move through the ending of a relationship?

How do we begin a relationship?

Are there ways to find openness and flexibility within current relationships?


preparation. strategies. support.

~~~ visit the partners tab for more information ~~~

How do people prepare for entering the dating world?

What are some helpful strategies to be in the dating world?

How can we build support practices while dating?


eroticism. desire. fantasy. 

~~~ visit the desire tab for more information ~~~

What is our experience and knowledge of the erotic in our lives?

What does desire look like, feel like, and sound like for each of us?

How free are we with the role of fantasy in our lives?

couples (all gender combinations).

attachment. intimacy. identity. acceptance.

How do we form secure and healthy attachments within couples?

Are we able to express intimacy in all its forms in our relationships?

What is the relationship between our personal identity and our partner’s?

How might our relationships be different if we can accept of our partner?

multis (all combinations).

openness. trust. identity. jealousy.

How much openness is possible in our relationships?

What role does trust play in our everyday lives?

What is the relationship between our personal identity and our relationship structures?

How are jealousy and fear triggered and learned from in our relationships?



asking & telling. vulnerability. honesty.

Are we able to ask for what we want in our lives & relationships?

Is it possible to tell those around us that our needs are not being met?

In what ways can we experience vulnerability as strength and courage?

How much honesty is possible and necessary in our relationships?



emotions. touch. pleasure. love.

~~~ visit the desire tab for more information ~~~

How are we able to express emotion in our intimate relationships?

What role does touch play in our relationships?

What types of pleasure increase our experience of intimacy?

How are we able to express our love for those in our lives?



sensuality. desire. asking.

~~~ visit the desire tab for more information ~~~

What is our experience of sensuality in our lives?

Are we able to express our desires?

Can we ask for what we want sexually?

intimacy outside of relationships.

‘straying’. healing, openness.

How do words like ‘infidelity’, ‘cheating’, ‘straying’ make us feel?

In what ways can these events be healing, rather than destructive for all of us?

What role do trust, vulnerability, and openness have in our relationships?


“Vizenor uses the term to refer to the entire sexual and erotic energy of every cell in our bodies, integrating the spectrum of feminine and masculine qualities and resisting reductionism to the binaries of gender.”

~~~~~ visit the key terms on the resources page for more definitions ~~~~~

trans*forming identities.

How do we express our gender and sexuality?

How do we experience the varying degrees of comfort and safety with ourselves and others?

To what degree are we aware of how the binaries (whether gender or beyond) in society effect us?

What trans* practices provide space and visibility in our lives?


~~~~~ see desire tab for related queries ~~~~~

pleasure. sensation. awareness.

How do we describe our experiences of pleasure in our lives?

To what extent are we able to integrate all of our senses?

How does self-awareness effect our experience of sensuality?


~~~~~ see culture & place tab for related queries ~~~~~

animals. outdoors. connection.


What is our relationship with animals and/or pets?

Do we have significant experiences in the outdoors?

How do we describe our sense of connection between our selves and the world outside of us?



touch. consciousness. body-mind.

How does our experience of touch inform awareness of our body?

In what ways does being conscious affect our bodies?

How do we describe the relationship between our mind and body?

~~~ let’s talk about things that supposedly we’re not supposed to ~~~


sexuality. attraction. variation.

How do we describe our sexuality?

What attracts us? In other people, and in ourselves?

How much experience have we had with variation in our sexual lives?



intimacy. emotion. communication.

How are we intimate with others?

What is our sense of our emotional intelligence and expression?

How do we describe our communication styles and patterns as we connect with people?



quality. empowerment. choice. sensuality.

How much quality touch do we have in our lives?

When is touch empowering or a turn off?

What choices can we make in fulfilling our desires to touch and be touched?

How much are we able to find sensuality in our lives?


~~~~~ visit gender & sexuality for more information ~~~~~

variety. masturbation. safety. communication.

Are we able to have a variety of sexual experiences in our lives?

What are our feelings about masturbation?

Are we engaging in safer sexual activities?

How comfortable is it for us to talk about sex?


diversity. expression. care.

Are we able to have diverse experiences of love in our relationships?

Can we express our feelings of love as they arise?

Are we able to find ways to care for ourselves and others?



alternatives. opening. polyamory. 

What alternative relationship structures are possible for us, in theory & in practice?

Is opening our relationships realistic, and what would we ask for?

What are our feelings about polyamory and other non-monogamous relationship structures?

culture & place.


my TED page has various related talks saved…

go to links and resources (media, books & key terms) for more information